Have you ever thought about how different your life would be if just one simple thing in your past had been different? Just one? It can get really real, and scary, how surprisingly pivotal random things in our lives are to our whole journey.
My parents moved us a decent amount through my childhood. I was born in Virginia, and lived in Nebraska, Arkansas, and Kansas all by the time I was eleven. What if we had not moved to Kansas on that last move, and stayed in Nebraska? How different would my junior high and high school experiences have been, who would be my friends? Would I have ended up at University of Nebraska, or maybe gone further (as I did in reality by choosing Springfield so it wasn’t too close too home to be convenient), like to K-State or KU, maybe even Iowa? Would I have still ended up in Springfield, studying the same thing and meeting the same people, thus, getting back on track to the life I have now? Maybe something completely off the wall would have happened, living up there, and I would have found my career path to be as a doctor or a psychologist. It could have been just one inspiring teacher at a different school to send me down that road.
How about something even smaller than growing up to adulthood in a different city – like, here in Overland Park, where my parents chose to go to church. In a very roundabout way, the connections our family made there have played a significant role in my career today. I ended up at my ad agency by way of a conversation with our pre-marital counselors, who actually are leaders at the agency and provided me with that opportunity.
Back to college – I met Ronnie in college. I met him ultimately by way of my dorm roommate, who had gone to highschool with a few of Ronnie’s fraternity brothers. But I didn’t meet him until my Sophomore year, after I had become good friends with many his friends, in a chain of friendships that grew in that year. My Freshman roommate had already changed her mind and transferred colleges by the time I met Ronnie. What if I had lived in a different dorm or been paired with a different roommate? Turned out Ronnie was from the KC area, so maybe our paths would’ve crossed had we never met in college…
There have been several other much more pivotal moments and milestones that have made my life what it is today, but those are obvious. These small little circumstances turned out to be ripples in the water that eventually turned into a tsunami in significance. If I didn’t have Ronnie, I wouldn’t have Skyler. Where would we be? I can’t even imagine.